2011-09-18
Follow Your Heart As Well As Your Head
Turn on the radio or the TV these days and what do you hear? Stories about how bad life is at the moment, stories about how the economy will crack under the pressure and blow us all to financial hell, stories about rioting and social unrest, stories about genocide, stories about how depressed we all are, stories about children being unable to read or write. In fact it is hard to step outside of your house these days and not hear something depressing. With all this negativity around us, it becomes even more important to hold onto your dreams.
If you have found yourself newly single in the past year do not think you are alone. Tough times place additional strain on our relationships and reveal which ones are meant to go the distance and which ones aren’t. Do not feel depressed if your relationship turned out to be one not designed to go the distance. Think of it for what it was – instructive but ultimately the person wasn’t the right one for you in the long run. Being single now allows you the opportunity to do things that you never thought you could do before and continue to search for the person you are supposed to be with. It is worth pointing out though, that you should not expend all your efforts and thoughts into finding that person. It is far better and more productive to concentrate on doing the things you’ve always wanted to do but never felt that you could. Concentrate on these things and more often then not, the right person will come to you.
A friend of mine wanted years ago to be a registered nurse in the NHS. She spent years training to be a nurse and it was a major part of her life for so long. After she qualified she spent hours looking for rgn jobs and trawling the internet for vacancies but met with little success. Eventually her boyfriend of the time convinced her to consider working in an office to keep the money coming in so that they could afford to save up and buy a house. She gave into the pressure to conform and do the right thing and abandoned her hunt for nursing jobs. It was one of the worst mistakes she ever made. For over two years she spent her time working in an office as a data analyst and was miserable for most of that time as I recall. Her boyfriend didn’t seem to care as his career was going well and they were planning to buy a place together.
My friend was unhappy and it was only after a conversation we had in the pub one night after work that I realised how bad it was. I just asked her if she was excited to be buying a place with her boyfriend and she broke down in tears. After a lot of talking and crying she admitted that she wasn’t happy, that all she wanted to do was to be a nurse and that she wasn’t in love with her boyfriend anymore. These things happen more often then people think. At the time I hoped I’d helped her realise what she was doing.
Now my friend is a registered nurse and very happy with whom she is. She dumped her boyfriend and met a lovely bloke a few years later after she’d been settled with herself for a while. I’m pleased to say her new man seems to make her very happy and is very happy himself by the looks of it. At least, that’s what she tells me every morning when we wake up together.
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